Why do we fall victim to love bombing?Why do we attract narcissists?Dr. Ramani is back with eye-opening and science-based insights on narcissism. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. Dr. Ramani discusses the difference between narcissism versus narcissistic personality disorder. She dives into the signs of love bombing and how to stop attracting narcissists. Dr. Ramani also talks about the practical strategies for safeguarding yourself from attracting narcissistic personalities into your life and how to spot the red flags and establish healthy boundaries. Join us in understanding the complexities of narcissism, how to foster resilience, establish boundaries, and reclaim yourself.With Love and Gratitude,Jay ShettyWhat We Discuss:00:00 Intro01:09 Narcissism Versus Narcissistic Personality Disorder05:41 Why Narcissistic People Make History09:28 How to Not Attract a Narcissist11:27 A Narcissistic Person is Like a Volcano14:38 Love Bombing is Winning You Over with Attunement15:24 From Love Bombing to What Went Wrong 18:11 Empaths Get Stuck in Trauma-Bonded Relationships21:45 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse25:29 Can You Disengage from a Narcissistic Partner?26:36 Repeat Perpetrators Harm the Forgiver28:21 You Can Empathize and Not Forgive30:42 What is Radical Acceptance?32:39 Flexibility in Our Psyche35:20 Grief is the Most Human Experience38:06 How to Recreate Your Own Subjective Focus44:13 How to Pull Yourself from any Form of Gaslighting48:58 Can a Narcissist Ever Heal?53:38 Is Change Possible?Episode Resources:- Dr. Ramani | Website- Dr. Ramani | Instagram- Dr. Ramani | YouTube- Dr. Ramani | TikTok- It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic PeopleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Ramani: 2 Signs You are Being Love Bombed & 8 Ways to Know If You are Dealing with a Narcissist

Do you find yourself thinking too much about other people’s opinions?
Is it starting to feel like it’s negatively affecting your life? 
Today, Jay unveils the subtle yet pervasive signs that indicate a deep-seated concern for others' opinions and the telltale signs that you may be overly influenced by external validation, from struggling to assert boundaries to outsourcing your decision-making to others.
Jay Also talks about actionable tips and strategies for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and how to draw inspiration from those who have walked a similar path before you, cultivating resilience and self-assurance in the face of external judgment. Explore the transformative power of reframing your self-perception and embracing a mindset of self-acceptance, as Jay emphasizes the importance of clarity and self-awareness in navigating life's challenges. 
In this episode, you'll learn:

How to not crave external validation
How to stop people-pleasing
How to not get swayed by other people’s opinions
How to stand your ground 

Gain practical tools for cultivating inner strength and confidence, from reframing negative self-talk to recognizing the inherent value of your own opinions and choices.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:11 Stop Caring About What People Think
04:10 Sign #1: You Get Easily Swayed
05:36 Sign #2: You Struggle to Say NO
06:18 Sign #3: We Often Want to Please Others
06:40 Sign #4: You Outsource Your Choices
09:22 Tip #1: Someone Has Been Through a Similar Experience Before You
17:00 Tip #2: Don’t Be Someone Who Gossips About Others
18:52 Tip #3: Be Clear About How You Feel About Yourself
21:06 Tip #4: Opinions Don’t Become Your Reality
22:19 Tip #5: Think of the Three Best Decisions You’ve Made in Your Life
24:20 Tip #6: People Are Not Thinking About As Much As You Think They Are
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4 Signs You Care Too Much About What People Think & How To Stop Worrying About People’s Opinions

Do you tend to feel tired after eating? 
Do you want to learn simple changes to stay energized and avoid the 3 PM slump? 
On this special episode of On Purpose, My wife Radhi joins us! Radhi is a clinical dietician, nutritionist, and always learning to cook. Radhi brings a modern approach to the ancient principles of holistic wellbeing and earned her Ayurvedic Health Counselor 1 degree at the California College of Ayurveda. Radhi's first ever book called JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly is out right now.
In this episode, Radhi teaches how to nourish our body in a way that's truly individual to you. Plus, pick up some practical tips for making sustainable changes in your diet and embracing the method of Ayurveda for balance and well-being.
Further into the episode, Radhi touches on the three modes of Ayurveda and how they influence our eating habits, intuitive eating practices that honor your body's signals, and the valuable insights to optimize digestion and transform your relationship with food.
In this interview, you'll learn:

How to change your diet
How food affects your mood
The right way to eat proteins
How to create positive daily routines
How to change your mindset about food

Get ready to savor each moment, embrace mindful eating, and cultivate a deeper connection with your body and soul. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
04:17 Recipes Inspired by Family and Love for Food
07:09 The Individual nature of Healing Your Body
12:01 How to Make Sustainable Changes in Your Body
14:52 The Three Modes in Ayurveda
20:08 Your Body Deteriorates when You Stop Listening to the Body Cues 
23:40 Eat Until Satisfied, Not Stuffed
28:35 Why You Need to CHew Your Food Properly
32:50 Avoid Cold Drinks and Iced Beverages
35:38 Does Skipping Meals Work?
38:31 On a Busy Day, How Can You Slow Down?
41:41 Overeating Proteins Harm the Body
45:02 How to Change Your Relationship with Food
51:18 The Value of Spices 
55:58 What is Your Morning Routine?
58:03 How to Not Feel Lethargic After Lunch
01:00:57 Best Practices for Evening Routines
01:05:24 The Recipe Game
01:11:28 What is Your Hope for People?

Episode Resources:

Radhi Devlukia | Website
Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly
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Radhi Devlukia: #1 Reason You Are Tired After Lunch & The Simple Change You Can Make to Avoid the 3 PM Slump

How do your 'icks' affect your dating life?
And what's the ultimate key to better dating?
Today, Jay is sharing the conversation he had with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham where he was being interviewed in their podcast, U Up?. The U Up? is a definitive modern dating podcast where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in.
Jay talks about a wide array of topics including the challenges of booking guests for new podcasts, the importance of preparing for important interviews, and his  unique approach to every show, offering listeners a diverse and enriching experience with each episode.
The conversation takes on a serious note when Jay talks about his take expressing anger, dealing with insecurities, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. Gain valuable insights into mindfulness practices and learn how to focus on the wins while amplifying the abundance of life.
In this interview, you'll learn:

How to deal with insecurities
How to become a better partner
How to change your mindset about dating

Truth be told, dating remains one of the challenging hurdles we go through in life but it is also one of the most rewarding when we find the right person to spend our life with.  
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:43 Calming Positive Influence to Others
03:29 The Competitive Aspect of Drinking Games
05:26 The Difficulty of Booking Guests for New Podcasts
07:05 Preparing for Important Guests
08:54 Every Show Has a Unique Offering
11:27 How Do You Express Anger and Hate?
13:57 Did You Ever Felt Wrongfully Targeted?
16:41 Did You Ever Block Anyone?
19:58 What are the Biggest Mistakes About Dating Today?
25:44 What’s Your Go-To First Date Activity?
27:16 Working in the Same Industry with Your Partner 
28:52 How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Mindset
31:07 How Do You Deal with Insecurities?
36:18 Focus on the Wins and Amplify the Abundance of Life
38:26 Two Things I Look Forward To
39:29 What’s Your Travel Pet Peeve?
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2 Ways Your 'Icks' Are Ruining Your Dating Life & #1 Way to Date Better with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham

What's the top habit for mastering time and energy?
How can we make this habit our own for better time and energy management?
Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Ed Mylett. Ed is a highly successful entrepreneur who has blended his unique experiences with a diverse set of practical strategies that have made him one of the most sought-after inspirational speakers in the world today. He is a serial entrepreneur who has enjoyed considerable success in part through his unrivaled work ethic and ability to fire up people with his dynamic, high-octane presentations.  Over the years, he has been involved in several tech, real estate, medical, and food ventures, among many others, leading him to be named a Success Magazine SUCCESS 125 most influential leader in 2022.
Have you ever stopped to ponder what lies within the depths of your being? Jay and Ed dive into the depths of self-discovery, from uncovering subconscious anchors to making courageous choices, discover the keys to unlocking your full potential and living a life of purpose. 
The duo explores the power of intention and action in validating your path, and learn how to navigate the challenges of speaking truth with kindness and compassion. Gain insights into overcoming obstacles, embracing change, and cultivating resilience on the path to success, and reflect on the concept of time and its malleability, and discover the rhythms of success that shape our lives. 
In this interview, you'll learn:

How to maximize your time
How to not get tied to the past
How to speak your truth
How to achieve success
How to change the trajectory of your life

Tune in to this enlightening conversation with Jay and Ed as they share wisdom, inspiration, and practical guidance to help you navigate the journey of self-discovery and personal growth.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:37 What Have You Been Working Inside?
05:56 In Life, We Move Towards What We’re Familiar With
06:58 How Do We Stop Creating Stress and Chaos?
09:12 The Subconscious Anchors That We’re not Using
12:50 Doing the Most Courageous Choices in Life
15:31 You Are Always Making People Feel Something
19:53 What Do You Do with the Weeds in Your Life?
21:07 You Validate Your Intention with Your Action
26:28 How to Speak Truth to People in a Kind Way?
32:54 You Are Born to Do Something Great with Your Life
40:15 Can You Bend and Manipulate Time?
46:11 Why You Aren’t in the Rhythm of Success
51:57 The Things that Got You Where You Are Won’t Get You Where You’re Going
55:34 Your Identity is the Thermostat Setting of Your Life  
01:01:28 The Danger of Tying Your Identity to What You Do
01:04:16 The Three D’s that Will Lead to Burnout 

Episode Resources:

Ed Mylett | Website
Ed Mylett | Instagram
Ed Mylett | Twitter
Ed Mylett | YouTube
Ed Mylett | Facebook
Ed Mylett | TikTok
Ed Mylett | Books
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Ed Mylett: #1 Habit to Become an Expert at Time and Energy Management

How do we build our inner confidence?
And how can we stop pretending that we’re okay even if we aren’t?
In a world where we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, Jay reminds us of the importance of embracing our unique qualities and building inner confidence. We'll dive into the dangers of comparing our relationships to others and how it can affect our self-esteem. And find out why nurturing inner confidence is key for personal growth and happiness. 
Jay also shares practical tips for boosting confidence, like embracing our quirks, celebrating our strengths, and shifting from seeking validation from others to validating ourselves. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to build self confidence
How to boost your own strengths
How to focus more on self-validation

Together, let's learn the actionable ways and and empowering wisdom to help you embrace your uniqueness and cultivate unshakable confidence from the inside out.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:45 Getting Lost in Comparison to Other People’s Relationships
05:13 Why We Need to Build on Our Inner Confidence
08:35 Confidence is the Belief That You Matter
12:47 #1: Being Okay with Liking Things That Others Don’t
17:19 #2: Start Noticing Your Own Strengths 
18:20 #3: Giving Self-Validation Versus Needing External Validation
24:05 Your Hero is Your Future Self
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3 Ways to Build Inner Confidence & Learn to Trust Yourself Instead of Comparing Yourself to Others

Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame?
How do we untrap ourselves from the past?
Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive. 
Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving. 
In this interview, you'll learn:

How to live with fear and anxiety
How to deal with deep-rooted trauma
How to handle grief and pain
How to improve your personal growth

Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man?
07:34 Tell Me Who You Are
11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us
13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time
17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday? 
20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear
28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped?
31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People
36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt?
43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take
46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly 
48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma
51:07 What is Integrative Thinking?
59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor” 
01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow?
01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality?
01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities

Episode Resources:

Dr. Gabor Maté | Website
Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram
Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter
Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube
Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture 
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Gabor Maté: Why Your Trauma is Showing Up as Guilt, Fear, and Shame & How to Untrap Yourself from the Past

Have you been struggling to get over your ex?
Do you want to find healing after a painful breakup?
Then this episode is for you.
Today, Jay will talk about the complexities of heartbreak and grief, shedding light on the profound emotional and physiological effects of romantic loss. He unravels the intricate workings of the human brain's obsession with love, exploring the biological and psychological mechanisms triggered by heartbreak. There are different physiological changes that occur in the body during a breakup, illuminating the intensity of emotions experienced in the aftermath of romantic dissolution.
Through poignant anecdotes and expert insights, Jay navigates through the stages of grief, offering a compassionate understanding of the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany loss. From denial to anger, bargaining to depression, and ultimately acceptance, Jay guides listeners through the transformative journey of healing and growth.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to overcome a breakup
The physical manifestations of a heartbreak
The different stages of grief

Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or seeking to support a loved one through their journey of healing, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you navigate the path forward with grace and resilience. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:19 What Happens When Someone Breaks Our Heart?
03:54 The Human Brain Is Obsessed with Love
04:55 What Happens in the Body During a Breakup?
09:36 Why Breakups Are Comparable to Addiction Withdrawal
11:36 The Rage Room
13:58 The FIve Stage of Grief
16:38 THe First Stage - Denial
20:42 The Second Stage - Anger
23:03 The Third Stage - Bargaining
25:37 The Fourth Stage - Depression  
27:33 The Final Stage - Acceptance
29:02 This is the Best Way to Describe Grief
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Why You Haven't Healed From Your Break Up and How To Get Over Your Ex

How can you let go of something you love to do?
And when is the right time to let go?
Today, Jay is joined by Emmy Award winning host, writer, producer, and actor, James Corden. James is also a Tony Award winning and Golden Globe nominated actor; and a multiple BAFTA Award winner. In April 2023, James wrapped up his eight-year run as host of THE LATE LATE SHOW, which premiered on CBS in March 2015. The show garnered Corden four Emmy Award wins and an additional twenty-three Emmy Award nominations. Corden is the co-creator and executive producer of CARPOOL KARAOKE: THE SERIES for Apple TV+ which won five consecutive Emmy Awards and is currently nominated for 2023. The series also won three Producers Guild Awards, a Critics’ Choice Real TV Award and was nominated for a Writers Guild Award.  
James takes you through the successive successes and inevitable misses that shape our lives, the impact of expectations on our experiences and unravel the true meaning of success. He touches on his love for performance, the driving force behind success, and the reality that not all efforts receive the recognition they deserve; as well as the reflective process during significant transitions and gain insights into the complexities of the narcissistic dream.
As the conversation continues, James presents the powerful analogy of letting a balloon go, symbolizing the liberation that comes with releasing expectations. They also touch on the importance of mindful living, questioning how much of tomorrow you&#39;re willing to borrow.  
In this interview, you&#39;ll learn:

How to effectively chase after success
How to pick yourself up after failure
The importance of surrounding yourself with good people
How to balance family life and career
How to make your marriage work
How to slow down when things get tough

This episode is a reminder to cultivate a life filled with purpose, the art of slowing down, embracing life&#39;s pace, and savoring each moment. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:52 The Successive Success and the Many Misses in Between
08:32 The Expectation OF is What Mostly Ruins Things
10:22 What is the True Meaning of Success?
12:56 Love for Performance and the Drive for Success
17:23 Not All Efforts Get Rewarded
20:36 Your Life Can Get Flipped Over Every Single Day
23:38 Reflection Process During Big Transitions
28:13 The Narcissist’s Dream
35:50 The Analogy of Letting a Balloon Go
41:02 Becoming More than the Man You Actually Are
46:44 Sleep is an Extraordinary Gift
49:42 How Much of Tomorrow Are You Willing to Borrow?
53:15 Why Do You Need to Stop Going on a Diet?
56:21 How Do You Keep Good Friends Around?
01:00:32 How to Calmly Talk to Your Child?
01:06:14 Where is the Best Place to Raise Your Family and Kids?
01:11:24 Effective Communication Between Married Couple
01:15:43 The Story of a Man Who Just Kept Going
01:21:08 The David Beckham Statue Prank
01:22:35 Learning to Slow Down and Not Rush Anything
01:32:2

James Corden: How to Know When the Time is Right to Let Go

Do you want to do more this month?
How do you effectively become more productive?
Today, Jay will share with us how to maximize your efficiency, ensuring that this month becomes your most productive one yet. Are you ready to unlock your full potential? 
Jay introduces the concept of 25-minute stretches of focused work, strategically interspersed with 5-minute breaks—a game-changer for heightened productivity. Or engage in job-related tasks for 52 minutes and then take a 17-minute break. 
Jay sheds light on the wisdom behind the practice of tackling the easiest or hardest tasks first, providing valuable insights into mastering time management. Let's uncover the secrets of distinguishing between creative and logical days, understanding how to harness each for optimal results. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to become more productive effectively
How to manage your time without stress
How to be more intentional with time management

The best way to remain productive is to find ways to eliminate distractions that keep you from accomplishing your tasks. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:20 Do you want to become more productive this month?
03:44 #1: Engage In Job Related Tasks For 52 Minutes And Then Take A 17-Minute Break 
06:57 #2: The 25 minute stretches of focused work broken down by 5-minute breaks
11:32 #3: TTC - Task, Time, Calendar
15:44 #4: The Practice of Doing the Easiest/Hardest Things First
17:38 #5: Creative Versus Logical Days
22:00 #6: Energy Versus Time
25:13 #7: Putting Your Phone Away Lessens Distraction
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How To Get More Done in 2024 (Best Advice for Focus and Productivity)

Do you feel that you struggle with being authentic? 
Do you want to overcome the judgment of society&#39;s perceptions of what it means to be authentic? 
Today, Jay sits down with Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X is a 24-year-old award-winning rapper, singer, songwriter from Atlanta, Georgia. Dubbed “an internationally recognized phenomenon” by Billboard, Lil Nas X rose to fame in 2019 when he released “Old Town Road” and shattered genre norms, disrupted the charts and went viral worldwide.  After a highly successful EP and several multi-platinum songs, Nas went on to release his critically acclaimed and GRAMMY-nominated debut album Montero in September 2021, which featured the culture-shifting 6x Platinum hit “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)”. Following the release of Lil Nas X’s latest single “J CHRIST”, his beautiful new documentary, Lil Nas X: Long Live Montero, debuted this weekend on HBO and is available to stream now on Max.
In this vulnerable episode Lil Nas X shares his story from being a shy kid in Atlanta Georgie to achieving his wildest dreams. Lil Nas X has proven that there is power of self-awareness and embracing your true identity, even in the face of loss and grief. He shares with us personal stories that have shaped him into the person he is today, and the person he is working on becoming. 
The conversation navigates through fears, the misunderstood aspects of Lil Nas&#39; message in his latest single, and the importance of cherishing time with family. They discuss spirituality, the quest for genuine love, dealing with a lack of control, and overcoming inner voices. 
In this interview, you&#39;ll learn:

How to embrace authenticity
How to deal with societal expectations
How to be true to yourself
How to genuinely believe in what you love to do
How to make peace with your inner voice

Tune in for a thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation that validates our humanness, flaws and strengths, and our ability to overcome difficult times.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:42 Fascination for Time Traveling
03:55 Lil Nas X Helped Montero Morph Out of Being a Super Shy Kid  
07:04 There’s No Reason to Stop, Even You Mess Up
08:57 What’s Your Favorite Childhood Memory?
10:32 Becoming Self Aware and More In Tune with Your Sexuality
11:24 Losing a Loved One to Cancer
16:22 A Song About not Being Present When a Loved One Needed You So Much
17:39 Appreciating and Cherishing Time Spent with Family  
19:27 What Scares You the Most Right Now?
20:56 What Does Positive Chaos Look LIke?
22:14 The Part of Montero’s Message That Got Misunderstood
26:30 My Relationship with My Father
28:52 We All Have Our Own Ideals in Seeing Other People 
31:09 Freedom to Explore Your Spirituality
35:05 This One Being That’s Connected to Everything
36:28 Being Authentic and Relatable at the Same Time
38:37 Fully Open to Finding Real, Genuine Love
42:10 Overpowering the Voices in Your Head
45:23 The Abili

Lil Nas X: Overcoming the Battle Between Embracing Authenticity & Navigating Society's Expectations

Are you struggling to silence your inner critic?
Is it becoming too loud and overwhelming? 
Today, Jay guides you through the art of silencing your inner critic and the reasons behind our tendency to quit. Unpack the various types of criticism influencing our inner dialogue, and discover actionable tips to befriend your inner critic. Jay's insights span from the importance of self-love in catalyzing change to the transformative power of language, urging you to remove the "I Am" statement. 
Learn the practice of journaling wins, cultivating resilience, and celebrating daily victories. And unpack how to navigate challenges with resilience, staying true to your goals despite the internal resistance.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why your inner critic is so loud
How to take control of your inner critic
How to think differently about yourself
How to celebrate small wins

Listen in, reflect, be in tune to a more positive and empowered self-perception. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:00 How To Silence Your Inner Critic When It’s Too Loud
03:29 This Is The Reason Why We Quit Doing Something
05:15 The Two Broad Types Of Criticism
06:35 7 Tips To Befriend Your Inner Critic
08:03 #1: You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Change
12:24 #2: Give Your Inner Critic A Name
12:56 #3: You Heard Your Inner Critic From Someone Else First
16:55 #4: Remove The “I Am” Statement
17:59 #5: Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Stop You From Making The Right Action
23:24 #6: Start Journaling Your Wins And Good Moments
26:04 #7: Write Down 3 Things You Did Well Today
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7 Steps on How to Silence Your INNER CRITIC Especially When it Gets TOO LOUD and Becomes Overwhelming

Do you want to know how to respond when no one believes you?
Do you know other people’s perception of you isn’t your reality?
Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Daniel Kaluuya. Known for his role as Fred Hampton in Shaka King's American biographical crime drama film Judas and The Black Messiah, Daniel won the 2021 Academy Award, British Academy Film Award, and Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in Supporting Role. His feature film writing debut with Netflix, The Kitchen has received positive reviews.
While football is a well loved topic between Jay and Daniel, the conversation shifted on Daniel’s earliest childhood memories that left an indelible mark on his life. We uncover the roots of his resilience and determination and his unwavering interest in writing. 
Daniel looks back into the challenges he faced for having dark skin and offers his insights on how to change our mindset around racism. We will learn about the cost of chasing our desires, the inspiration behind “The Kitchen”, and the transformative power of bringing ideas into existence. Together they unpack the importance of making peace with people's perceptions, and the courage it takes to share your work and passion with the world. 
In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to pursue your passion
How overcome your limits
How to turn ideas into reality
How to develop resilience

Join us on this soul-stirring exploration of life, growth, and the resilience that lies within each of us.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:19 Earliest Childhood Memory That Changed Your Life
06:07 What Would You Do When No One Believes In You?
08:51 How the Interest in Writing Started
11:52 Learning the Art of Improv
14:25 Shared Love for Football
19:27 Getting Shamed for Having Dark Skin
23:37 How to Change Your Mindset Around Racism
25:41 Standing Up For the Decisions that You Make
27:46 The Cost of Wanting Something is High
30:25 The Inspiration for The Kitchen
33:54 Exposing Why People Live the Way They Do
38:36 Overcoming the Fear of Making an Idea a Reality
43:16 The Power of One Idea
48:21 How Bringing Things into Existence can Change You
52:29 Making Peace with People’s Perception of You
58:51 Sharing Your Work and Passion to the World 
01:01:36 Daniel on Final Five

Episode Resources:
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Daniel Kaluuya: How to Respond When No One Believes in You & Why Other People's Perception of You is Not Your Reality

Do you want your relationships in 2024 to uplift you and the others around you?
Do you want your relationships to bring you energy and not drain you?
Then this episode is for you.
Today, Jay shares insights on building stronger connections. Discover the proactive steps to create bonds that will withstand the test of time, moving beyond surface-level ties. Uncover the five types of relationships you can invest in for genuine and enduring connections.
Jay explores the concept of belonging—the magic that happens when we become part of a community. From the joy of shared experiences to the comfort of knowing you're not alone. Your journey can take an introspective turn when you look deep into the vital relationship with ourselves—the key to true independence and the layers of self-discovery and the profound impact it has on our overall well-being.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to boost your existing relationships
How to create new and better relationships
How to be more in-tune with yourself
How to upgrade your connections and community

Join Jay as he guides us through the transformative power of relationships built on selfless love and devotion.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:56 The 5 Types of Relationships We Need in Our Life
03:16 Type #1: Belonging - Being a Part of a Community
09:32 Type #2: Legacy - Feeling Connected to Something Bigger
14:11 Type #3: Independence - A Relationship with Ourselves
18:33 Type #4: Safety Relationships - The People that Bring Stability in Our Lives
23:39 Type 35: Service - Relationships Based on Surrender and Service
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The 5 Relationships You Need To Invest in to Supercharge Your 2024 (Backed By Science)

Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? 
Are you wondering why you can&#39;t move on from your ex?
If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts.
If you&#39;ve ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let&#39;s discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections.
The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship.
In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to turn conflicts into genuine connection
Why relationships often fail
How to save your correct relationship
What to do after a breakup
How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship

It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode.
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving?
03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup?
05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change
10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 
14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control
17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity
22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything
27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 
29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say
36:01 Do New Things Together
38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup
41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust
43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship
50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal
55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health
01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us
01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics
01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship?
01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships
01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters
01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence
01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become
01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game

Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You’re Addicted to Your Ex

How can you stay motivated in 2024?
How can you stay on track when things get though?
There is always a challenge, some resistance, or pressure to break your goals and lose motivation. Today, Jay will unpack why it’s become difficult to maintain motivation throughout the year. There are scientifically proven ways to boost your motivation and stay motivated.  
From investing on people and personalities that is linked to your goal and that can give you positive influence and the three people you need in your life when things get too tough to doing the things that you’ve been planning to do but haven’t got the time to complete, there are options and tips available for you to get that motivation back and stir your path to the right goals. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to stay focused on your goals
How to effectively set goals
How to bring back motivation
How to do the things you’re set on doing

There's a wealth of options and insights waiting for you to reclaim your motivation and steer your journey toward the right goals.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:22 There’s always a challenge to break your goal
02:59 Tip #1: The Four Stages of Cognitive Restructuring
07:52 Tip #2: Follow All The Right Accounts That Is Linked To Your Goal
10:26 Tip #3: Tick Off Anything That You’ve Completed In The Day
14:21 Tip #4: The Three People You Need In Your Life When You Lose Motivation
17:04 Tip #5: The Most Important Thing Is How You Feel After You Do Something
20:05 Tip #6: You Got Everything Done Except For The One Thing That You Needed To Do
22:10 Tip #7: Your Fitness And Wellness Is Based On The Quality Of Your Sleep
24:01 Tip #8: The 20-Minute Routine You Need To Practice
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8 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Motivated BEFORE You Get Off Track (When Things Get Tough)

Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time? 
Do you want to have better communication and expectations with your partner? 
On this very special episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with the former First Lady of the country, Michelle Obama. During Michelle’s time as First Lady, Michelle launched several initiatives, including "Let's Move!" which aimed to combat childhood obesity, and "Reach Higher," promoting higher education. Her memoir "Becoming," released in 2018, became one of the best-selling books of that year and took the world by storm. Today we sit down to talk about her most recent book, “The Light We Carry.” 
In this raw conversation, Michelle opens up about her thoughts on marriage, fame, and public service. She talks about the toxicity of social media and technology that affects our mental health and how to be open to the changes and possibilities people bring with them. She also talks about how negative news and social updates are affecting our society and the community we are in.
We also dive deep into relationships and  why we put so much pressure on our marriage, how to choose the right person for you and make the relationship work even when it isn’t perfect, and how to practice constructive arguments with your partner.
In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to think freely and independently
How to take care of your mental health
How to become a supportive partner
How deal with negativity
How to become an effective leader
How to make your marriage last  

Together we’ll learn how to find calm amid life's noise, give people the space to be seen and heard, and explore topics that resonate with the very fabric of our personal growth journey.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:18 What is the Best Part of Being You?
02:16 What’s Your Longest Friendship?
03:16 The Struggle of Leaving the People You Love Behind
06:36 Be Open to the Possibilities of People
11:36 What’s the Hardest Part of Being You?
14:23 When You Lose a Piece of Yourself
16:48 What Keeps You Up at Night?
19:00 Allow Your Brain to Rest from the Noise
24:26 Mindful Usage of Technology
26:48 We Consume More Negative News Daily
31:03 How Do You Sustain a Successful Relationship?
35:33 The Non-Negotiables in Any Relationship
37:08 You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness
42:50 What is Your Fight Style?
48:42 Giving People Space to Be Seen and Heard
53:15 What Offends You the Most?
54:39 The Best Personal Growth Moments
59:59 Conclusion with Michelle Obama

Episode Resources:

Michelle Obama | Instagram
Michelle Obama | Facebook.
Michelle Obama | Books
Obama Foundation 
The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times
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Michelle Obama: How to Stay with Your Partner When They Are Changing & 4 Check-ins You Should Be Doing in Your Relationship

What do you want to change in 2024?
What goal do you want to achieve this year?
Happy New Year! Today, let’s focus on making your new year’s resolution into a reality. For many, there’s a lot they want to change, overcome, and succeed in but not everyone has the resolve to take action and actually make it happen. 
As we step into 2024, Jay guides us through four dynamic approaches: a year of learning, experimenting, performance, or thriving. No matter your choice, let's laser-focus on your top goals. Remember, even colossal goals can be conquered by breaking them down into manageable chunks. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to set better goals
How to make your year productive
How effectively achieve your goals 

Let's make 2024 a year of learning, experimenting, and finding success in life, love, and career! 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
03:10 What Type Of Year Is 2024 For You?
04:22 #1: What is 2024 For You?
05:10 A Year of Learning
08:02 A Year of Experimenting
09:58 A Year of Performance
10:48 A Year to Thrive
12:30 #2: A Year From Now, What Would You Want To Be True About You And Your Life?  
15:57 #3 The 1-4-3-1 Method
20:18 Know That You Will Fall Off Your Plan
22:20 Be Compassionate to Yourself and to Others
27:00 Let’s Make 2024 the Year You’ve Been Waiting For

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The ONLY 7 Step Goal Setting Method You Need to Become Who You Want to Be in 2024 (NEW Framework - Don't Skip this One)

Do you want to know the secret to living a long healthy life? 
Do you want to know what the healthiest people in the world drink everyday?
Dan, a best-selling author and explorer, shares his extensive research and knowledge on the communities where people live the longest and healthiest lives. As the mind behind the acclaimed book, "The Blue Zones Secrets for Living Longer: Lessons from the Healthiest Places on Earth," and the visionary behind the Netflix docu-series, Dan Buettner brings a wealth of knowledge about how to live to 100+.
This conversation explores the common threads that weave through these diverse group of people, unlocking the keys to a fulfilling and enduring life .From diet and daily habits to the profound sense of community, Dan Buettner offers profound insights into how these lessons from the Blue Zones can be applied to our own lives. 
Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that bridges ancient traditions with modern living, and learn how you can integrate the Blue Zones' transformative lessons into your own pursuit of a healthier, more meaningful and longer life
In this interview you’ll learn: 

Practical lessons for a longer life 
What role your genes play in the length of your life 
What you can add to your diet daily that will add 4 years to your life 
How our environment plays a key role in our life 
Tangible steps we can take to improve our overall well being 
How plant based diets can significantly improve our health 
How a sense of purpose and community can enhance our life and longevity 

Dan’s passion for understanding and unlocking the secrets to longevity has influenced the world and I hope it does the same for you. 
With Love and Gratitude, 
Jay Shetty 
What we Discuss:

00:00 Intro 
03:40 How much of our genes determine how long we will live 
09:23 The secret to a healthy America 
14:30 The overconsumption of meat is hurting us
18:15 We spend twice as much time in our cars than we did in the 1980s
20:24 The power of community  
24:50 The hack to a longer life isn’t based solely on diet and exercise but also community 
27:13 Using elders as a longevity strategy for community 
30:40 Green tea can add to your longevity 
35:33 How beans and grains are cornerstones in the oldest global communities 
38:11 What has changed over the years that has added to our mortality rate 
43:40 The power of creating a social circle around health 
44:35 Reminder to stop eating when stomachs are 80% full 
47:27 What the last bluezone 1.0  will be 
51:16 What most cities should consider in order to become a blue zone 
54:43 How a sense of purpose and clarity can add to our longevity 
55:03 Conclusion 

Episode Resources:

Dan Buettner | Facebook
Dan Buettner | Instagram
Dan Buettner | Website
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Dan Buettner: 5 Secrets to Live to 100+ & The Hack That Will Change the Way You Make Daily Food Decisions

As we approach the close of 2024, this episode is not just about reflecting on the lessons learned; it's about sharing the transformative insights that will illuminate our path forward.
Jay poses a question that resonates deeply: How many of us stress about our well-being? From health and meditation to daily journals and affirmations, the pursuit of self-improvement often brings with it a surge of stress. 
Jay challenges you to explore the idea of stress as a spectrum, a nuanced scale rather than a binary state. This concept is monumental and understanding stress can be a game changer for you this coming year. 
In this episode, Jay unpacks the idea that sometimes the goal of wanting to be better and do better puts us under greater pressure. 
Let Jay guide you as he explains positive stress, distress and the lessons he learned this year that are meant to be carried forward and put into practice. It's not just about learning; it's about application, about making these lessons a living, breathing part of our lives.
This episode is your go to to close off the year and prepare yourself for a beautiful journey in 2024. 
With Love and Gratitude, 
Jay Shetty 
In this episode you’ll learn: 

Differentiating positive stress and distress
Finding your center 
Top stressful events for adults 
Knowing when to be hard on yourself and when to let go 

What we discuss: 

00:00 Intro 
03:02 The Big Lesson I Am Taking Into 2024 
03:34 #1 Understanding Stress As A Spectrum
04:49 The Positive Side Of Stress
10:30 Living In Distress
17:09 #2 Finding Your Center 
20:28: #3 Being More Compassionate And Understanding Of How Others Deal With Stress 
21:25 The Ultimate Gamechanger
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